An Ode to October

Amazing! It’s already October . . . and, without a doubt, we’ve moved into the work . . . almost forgetting that glorious summer vacation, the great books we have read, or the feeling of having enough rest and relaxation. Some of you are already talking about how tired you are feeling.

girl sitting in window reading book

The “O” in October has been replaced by “Overwhelming”. As we work with systems, we have seen the pattern over and over again. This is a hard month! We have moved beyond the excitement and energy that comes with beginning a new year. So, what do we do? Here are a handful of possibilities:

  1. Engage in coaching conversations – ones that acknowledge how folks are feeling and thinking. Be a witness to the struggle of another (remember the iceberg). Full presence is experienced as encouragement and support without even saying a word.
  2. Listen For” instead of “listening to” – Hear what each other wants, the emotion that bubbles beneath the surface, and what’s already working. Reframe from negative to positive, problem to solution, and complaint to commitment.
  3. Take a breath – remember to breathe. Often under stress, we forget the importance of deep breathing; inhaling and exhaling. Giving ourselves permission to be still for a moment can resurface energy, focus, and commitment.
  4. Focus on one thing at a time – multitasking is an oxymoron and does cause the brain to feel overwhelmed. With intention, we can manage our distractions- both internally and externally.
  5. And last but not least . . . Eat some chocolate! Ha! Ha! – While this might please some of us, it’s really about being mindful of how we are fueling our bodies. How is what we are eating giving us the appropriate level of energy for what we are attempting to accomplish?

These are just a few strategies for keeping October the month it was intended to be – a signal announcing the arrival of cooler weather, bright and colorful leaves, and the fun of Halloween!

About Karen Anderson, PCC, M. Ed.

2 Comments

  1. Janet Hood-Hanchey (Yes, surely the Oldest Living Practicing Educator!) on October 10, 2019 at 10:39 am

    Excellent and timely piece, Karen. I have been musing over the “Overwhelmed in October” phenomenon all week long. Among my several hypotheses, I think it may possibly be exacerbated by the ever earlier August start dates (August 5 was the typical Texas first day back this year for “Districts of Innovation,”) In addition, I am sensing that there exists a rising tide of increasingly “sandwiched” employees who may be doing heavy duty elder care, plus child care on demand for the ‘grands, but not yet retired because they haven’t yet reached the age eligibility for Medicare and can’t afford health care premiums without the Employer contribution of a generous school board. We are indeed exercising our “Witness their Struggle” and “

  2. Karen Anderson on October 12, 2019 at 11:55 am

    Janet,
    Thanks for responding in agreement with this phenomenon. As always, your insights are “spot on” adding additional components that add to the complexity of our lives. Nothing can replace the value of a fully present listener!
    Karen (*_*)

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