Communication
Boosting Our Emotional Intelligence: The 90 Second Rule
The focus of this month’s social media is to examine three ways to boost our emotional intelligence while managing our reactions to others. In the Ezine we looked at Mary Beth O’Neill’s four steps for reactivity management. In this Blog, we will look at Jill Bolte Taylor’s 90 Second Rule. In her book, My Stroke…
Read MoreBoosting Our Emotional Intelligence: The 3R Model
Continuing our social media focus on ways to boost our emotional intelligence while managing our reactions to others, we will learn a strategy offered by Tasha Eurich in her book Insight. Previously, we looked at Mary Beth O’Neill’s four steps for reactivity management and Jill Bolte Taylor’s 90 Second Rule. Eurich offers the 3R Model…
Read MoreThe Samurai Serving of Listening
Cash Nickerson, author of the Samurai Listener, offers us another tool. He took the act of listening apart, identifying its parts with the acronym ARE U PRESENT. He offers this helpful tool to support each of us to be Mindful of how we listen. Awareness: Start with basic awareness. Get your face out of your phone, and…
Read MoreListening – Let’s “Just Do It!”
Listening is a magical tool that is essential for our hectic, crazy, stressed world. Listening offers a pathway for others to breathe. So many come to us in distress – so much stress that it creates a cry for help that looks like they need an emergency exit from the pain or pressure and are…
Read MoreNurturing Gratitude in Ourselves
Sometimes we should express our gratitude for the small and simple things like the scent of the rain, the taste of our favorite food, or the sound of a loved one’s voice. Joseph B. Wirthlin Continuing this month’s focus on the importance of practicing gratitude in our lives, we return to the definition offered in…
Read MoreShowing Gratitude to Others
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. William Arthur Ward So far this month, we have moved from the “Musings of a Grandmother” to nurturing gratitude in ourselves. Our focus this time is how we promote or show gratitude to others. We know from our study of…
Read MoreOne Order of Gratitude, Please
There are several reasons I have chosen to share a writing with you this month. First, Karen Anderson gave us pause to think about GRATITUDE in her writing in October. Second, last year our RCG book study on INSIGHT by Tasha Eurich was so impactful many of us still speak of our learning from her…
Read MoreCreating Insight via Moments
Moments of insight offer the opportunity for realizations and transformations. In coaching, paraphrases that reframe or questions that challenge offer moments of potential realization and transformation. In addition, coach leaders may create experiences or situations that cause others to “trip over the truth” (Chip and Dan Heath, 2017). Here is an example of a created…
Read MoreFrom “I Don’t Want Your Feedback” to “Please Give Me Feedback” – A Shift in Mindset
Let’s begin with a recent conversation with Jasper ISD Superintendent, Gerald Hudson. It’s late on a Friday afternoon, long after the work day is over and the phone rings. Gerald, who has been in his position less than 6 months, says, “My folks want coaching!” Having known Gerald for many years, I respond with surprise, “Really. You haven’t…
Read More“Thanks, My Instructional Targets are Crystal Clear” – Clearly Articulated Standards and Expectations
Earlier this month we shared how a change in mindset from “gotcha” to growth, along with reflective feedback that’s focused on what’s working, can change the results one gets. This conversation is about how adding clear standards and expectations can magnify the impact of coaching. This continues one district’s story . . . In Garland…
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