Posts by Vicky Dearing, MCC, M. Ed.
How is Your Attitude on Gratitude?
Many years ago, a movie featured a song that offered insights on how best to deal with worry and fatigue. While we are not sure the degree to which the song was based on scientific evidence – the message still rings true today. Here is a line from the song, sung by Bing Crosby in…
Read MoreWhy Your Self-Talk is Like a Personal Self-Portrait
Earlier this month you were offered the visualization of how our self-talk holds the potential of being like a beautiful scene that draws you toward it in a positive manner. Or at least let’s hope that would be a good comparison. And guess what? You have the ability to construct your self-talk image as you…
Read MoreWords Matter – Stepping into Your Own Self-Talk
As a leader, you know the power of listening – seeking to hear, understand, and respect what another is saying, whether you agree or not. This is a must skill for today’s leaders, as well as an important life skill. Married to your listening skill is your ability to speak with clarity and respect as…
Read MoreI Will Listen
Here are some thoughts that came to my mind in reflecting on the importance of listening to another person, regardless of their age and stage in life. “I promise to listen to you. I am interested in you and what you have to say. I promise to stop any judgements that attempt to enter my…
Read MoreHow Do You Listen?
We are in the people business. People come in all sizes and ages, seeking our attention. As a leader you are called to listen all day long. So many people, so many challenges, so much time with others wanting you to listen to them. So how do you listen? Do you listen with both your…
Read MoreEmotions – What Do We Do with Them?
Earlier this month I shared a personal story about emotions and how I grew up understanding them – or maybe not. For example – I can begin to cry at times when I am being coached. I don’t want to cry then, and yet here come the tears. I feel things deeply. When I was…
Read MoreHow Do You Feel?
How do you feel? How many times in your life has someone asked you that question? And, how clear were you on articulating how you were feeling? As a child, I’m not certain how I was taught to express my feelings. Sure, I knew to say, “That hurt my feelings.” Or “That makes me mad.”…
Read MoreThe Team Believes!
Remember the Believe Sign? It’s Grown in Strength! Take a look at this image from the Ted Lasso TV Series. Ted put the sign up and at first the team did not respond in a positive manner. Rather, many made snide remarks about it. Now look. All team members are touching the sign. They believe!…
Read MoreBELIEVE – Thank You, Ted, for the Reminder
Okay, I admit it. I’m a big fan of The Ted Lasso series on Apple, even though I do wish they would have omitted lots of the explicit language, which was almost never spoken by Ted, as well as all the R rated scenes. And yet, there are so many powerful messages in this series…
Read MoreGive the Present of Presence
Most likely we would not be too excited to open a gift and find nothing inside. Right? However, would you be surprised to know that in coaching, this is the perfect metaphor for coaching presence? Let me explain. In coaching, we are giving the gift of ourselves and our skills to another person. What does…
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