Posts by Vicky Dearing, MCC, M. Ed.
I Will Listen
Here are some thoughts that came to my mind in reflecting on the importance of listening to another person, regardless of their age and stage in life. “I promise to listen to you. I am interested in you and what you have to say. I promise to stop any judgements that attempt to enter my…
Read MoreHow Do You Listen?
We are in the people business. People come in all sizes and ages, seeking our attention. As a leader you are called to listen all day long. So many people, so many challenges, so much time with others wanting you to listen to them. So how do you listen? Do you listen with both your…
Read MoreEmotions – What Do We Do with Them?
Earlier this month I shared a personal story about emotions and how I grew up understanding them – or maybe not. For example – I can begin to cry at times when I am being coached. I don’t want to cry then, and yet here come the tears. I feel things deeply. When I was…
Read MoreHow Do You Feel?
How do you feel? How many times in your life has someone asked you that question? And, how clear were you on articulating how you were feeling? As a child, I’m not certain how I was taught to express my feelings. Sure, I knew to say, “That hurt my feelings.” Or “That makes me mad.”…
Read MoreThe Team Believes!
Remember the Believe Sign? It’s Grown in Strength! Take a look at this image from the Ted Lasso TV Series. Ted put the sign up and at first the team did not respond in a positive manner. Rather, many made snide remarks about it. Now look. All team members are touching the sign. They believe!…
Read MoreBELIEVE – Thank You, Ted, for the Reminder
Okay, I admit it. I’m a big fan of The Ted Lasso series on Apple, even though I do wish they would have omitted lots of the explicit language, which was almost never spoken by Ted, as well as all the R rated scenes. And yet, there are so many powerful messages in this series…
Read MoreGive the Present of Presence
Most likely we would not be too excited to open a gift and find nothing inside. Right? However, would you be surprised to know that in coaching, this is the perfect metaphor for coaching presence? Let me explain. In coaching, we are giving the gift of ourselves and our skills to another person. What does…
Read MoreVisualization Exercise to Prepare for Deep Presence
How do you clear all the chatter going on within your body before a coaching conversation, or really any conversation you are about to have, in order to be fully present? One approach I have found to be helpful was introduced to me by Marcia Reynolds, first in a virtual training and then in her…
Read MoreCoaching Presence – What is it and Why is it Important?
Earlier this month, I offered some thoughts about the behaviors of a coach-leader and of a coach, showing how in many ways both roles are similar and at times different. One important way that coach leaders and coaches are the same is the way they offer and maintain presence to the person speaking. In order…
Read MoreCoach Leader or Professional Coach? What is the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
The mission of Results Coaching Global (RCG) is and has always been to support school leaders in being more confident, competent, and courageous as they lead self and others to higher levels of results. In this day and time, that means building and growing a thinking culture where everyone is committed to being an active…
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