Communication
When Do I Not Coach?
Again, Marcia Reynolds, in Coach the Person, Not the Problem, speaks to us about when not to coach. She says we Do Not Coach if we cannot do the following: Let go of how we want the conversation to go. If not, we lead, we force, and we solve which is contrary to what coaching is.…
Read MoreWhen Do I Coach?
Many people hold the misconception that coaching is ONLY about problems. In reality, there are many opportunities to coach which show up in both our personal and professional lives. According to Marcia Reynolds, in her book, Coach the Person, Not the Problem, she offers these possibilities as an ideal time for a coaching conversation. Exploring…
Read MoreWe All Need Love!
In the 1960’s there was a song written by Hal David and Burt Bacharach titled, “What the World Needs Now is Love.” Dionne Warwick brought the song to life with her beautiful voice. I loved the song when it first came out (I was a college student), and still love it today (as a mature…
Read MorePart 2: Grossman’s “GREAT EIG8T”
Leading with heart can be especially challenging for leaders who are constantly under pressure from all different directions, as we are today. In this article, we invite you to consider the first four of Grossman’s “GreatEi8ht” strategies and align with our coaching strategies and tools. NUMBER 1: LEAD YOURSELF FIRST How many times in our…
Read MoreKnowing What to Stop – Part II
In a recent coaching conversation, my client was seeking ways to respond quickly and positively when he felt attacked, and his immediate reaction was to become defensive. When something triggers us, our first instinct is to react, which often leads to words or actions we later regret. The wisdom literature tells us that between stimulus…
Read MoreHow to Support People to Excel
If we continue to spend our time identifying what people are not doing and giving people feedback (advice) about how to be better, we’ll languish in the business of adequacy. To get into the excellence business we need some new techniques: Look for the outcomes; what people are doing that is working. Replay your instinctive…
Read MoreGive Advice = Change Today/Avoid Advice = Grow the Future
You remember last month one of the aspects that Karen Anderson lifted up in her article was about easy change and hard change. You were reminded of our Powerful Coaching seminar: technical change vs adaptive change. Adaptive change is the hard stuff; changing your mindset, your core principles and values. Dumping the habit of giving…
Read MoreADVICE…THE GIFT THAT DOES NOT KEEP ON GIVING
April is always a month of hopefulness, new beginnings, and smiles! Last month, my colleague, Karen Anderson, shared some juicy learnings from the book, The Advice Trap by Michael B Stanier. Everyone is hopeful when they ask for advice. This is a topic that is ubiquitous to every seminar we provide on coaching so it’s…
Read MoreThe Damage of Giving Advice and Four Steps to Tame Your Advice Monster
The Advice Trap – Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way you Lead Forever has been the focus of this month’s social media articles. So far, we have explored Easy and Hard Change, The Advice Personas, and Six Foggy-fiers that interfere with our work as coaches. This article will look at the dark side…
Read MoreThe Three Personas of the Advice Monster and Six Foggy-fiers
Continuing our study of Michael Bungay Stanier’s book, The Advice Trap, this article will explore two concepts – The Three Personas of the Advice Monster and Six Foggy-fiers. Sounds interesting, doesn’t it. Michael says the Advice Monster likes to inhabit three personas – Tell-It, Save-It, and Control-It. Using his tag line from the book –…
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